Serra Oral
Blogs Editor
With junior prom just around the corner and the season of asking people to senior prom coming up, prom has been a constant topic of high school students lately. But with the discussion comes the problems or “proma”. Here are the top issues that tend to be faced in this period.
Finding a date. To ask someone or wait to be asked? And if you do ask, should you do it in one of those put-post-its-on-the-car-type ways or just simply coming out and asking? Then there’s the issue of dealing with any back up date plans you made with good friends when you were both worried about not getting asked. But the hardest problem of all is not finding a date. My advice here is go with a good friend and if none are available, go with an acquaintance. You can still hang out with your friends at pre-prom, post-prom, and the actual dance.
Finding a dress/tux. It can be quite stressful to go shopping for prom. For girls, there’s the issue of finding the right dress AND making sure there is no one else wearing it. This can be quite problematic since the dresses that people wear are bought at all the same stores. With boys, its even harder to distinguish themselves (not that they particularly want to) because the common uniform is a black tux with a tie that matches their date’s dress. For boys, you can always mix it up though by getting an all white tux or just doing partially white or some other fun color. For girls, maybe try looking for the dress early. If it’s already too late for that, try looking for dresses online or shopping at stores like A Step Ahead in Stamford where they do not sell the same dress to other girls that go to the same school.
Deciding which pre-prom/post-prom to go to and which table to sit with. This can be a direct conflict with the prom date. If you’re lucky enough to have a prom date that floats in the same circle of friends as you, then you have very little to worry about. In that situation, it’s just a question of how the group is going to split up. But if you don’t, then there’s the problem of whether you should sit with your friends or your date’s. Personally, I believe in the art of the compromise. This means that maybe if you go to your date’s pre-prom, then you sit with your friends at the actual prom, or vice versa. Trust me, you both will have plenty of chances to spend time with your friends.
Transportation. Limo or no limo? Even if you do have your license or your date does and can drive legally, this issue does surface. How much money you’re willing to spend on the night? How comfortable are your parents with you driving yourself and your date to prom? Do you feel it will help make the night better? Also, since you’re not the only person who would be paying for it (talk about expensive!), you have to consider the wishes of the people who you would possibly share it with.
Dance. When you get there, it may be intimidating in terms of how to dance and how you look, but don’t let that get you down. You will look wonderful so don’t worry about how others may view you.
No matter what “proma” issues surface, my advice is, don’t let it bring you down. Prom is two nights in your high school career (well, maybe more if you are lucky enough to get invited to other ones). It is not the end of the world if you don’t get your dream date or dress. Don’t worry about which friends you’re sitting with at the table or which pre-prom or post-prom you’re going to. Just don’t let it completely occupy your life in the weeks to come and you will have fun. And if you don’t have fun, then look at the bright side- you will probably get some good stories out of it!
